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Thanks For The Friendship

Tuesday, November 18th, 2008 by Alyice

Over the years I have had many friends, some good, some bad. All of them have taught me something about myself, about life, and about the right and the wrong way to treat people. All of them have made me the person I am today and for that, I am grateful.

It’s been hard to let go of the good friends, especially when the things that pulled us apart were priority changes, distance, and job relocations. You’d think with modern technologies like email, blogs, text messaging, and cell phones, that we would have been able to find a way to stay connected—but sometimes, there just isn’t enough time in the day to keep the distance or busyness of life from deteriorating friendships.

I’ve always had a hard time letting go of the people I love—of watching them move on without me. Not because I was jealous or envious or wanted them to fail, but because I feared being abandoned; of being left behind. I used to personalize every termination—even if it wasn’t anyone’s fault.

Then I met someone who showed me what it means to be a friend that sticks around—through thick and thin, through ups and downs, through quarrels and squabbles, and through mood swing after mood swing. And for that, I’ll be forever and eternally grateful.

And that person is Ms. Tina L. Miller. We first met online, in a writers’ forum. Then, when it was time for my family to move out of state she helped my family find a home in her home state of Wisconsin. The ironic part is that while we had bonded, we still had personal guards up that sometimes made our friendship difficult to bare. But there was a connection there that could not be denied and slowly we learned to trust each other.

Over the next three and a half years we had coffee dates, picture-scouting dates, shopping dates, and brain-storming dates. We even got our families together for picnics, barbecues, and game nights. And soon, we became “family”.

It wasn’t always easy. There were times when we didn’t understand each other or each other’s motives. There were times that we pushed each other way instead of opening up and being real about our circumstances. But mostly, we learned to accept each other “as is”.

When my family moved out of the state five years ago I thought it would be the end of our friendship and I mourned that loss by putting up a wall. I tried to distance myself from her emotionally, but she saw right through me. She realized that I had abandonment issues and she fought through them.

She told me that long-distance friendships could work and to prove it she’s made it a priority to keep our friendship alive through phone calls, emails, letters, note cards, and personal visits. So when we do get in touch, like today, it feels like no time has passed at all, like we’re just next door.

She genuinely seems to care about what is going on in my life and listens and talks and shares her life with me. There’s no prying. There’s no feeling like she’s holding back. There’s no feeling like I’m less than I am. There’s no need to try to be something I’m not. And I love it.

We talked on the phone for over an hour this evening and the time simply flew by. I loved every minute of it, and so did she. In fact, it made me wish May was here already—so I could watch her walk down the aisle with her husband-to-be. And, like her, it had me wishing we could be sitting under the tree in her yard sharing a cup of coffee and brainstorming about how we’re going to grow our businesses and what we’re going to do when the weather warms up.

Give thanks…

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Thanks For The Omaha Zoo

Monday, November 3rd, 2008 by Alyice

Normally, I am not fond of zoos. I’ve been to plenty of zoos that break my heart—confined, dirty quarters and miserable animals. I understand the purpose behind the zoos—sanctuaries for endangered or injured species, educational facilities for conservation and research, and entertainment for the everyday person. But sometimes, the idea of locking up an animal can seem so very cruel; especially when the living arrangements are less than desirable.

The Omaha Zoo in Nebraska appears to be an exception. The caretakers seem to take pride in their zoo and most of the living quarters are breathtakingly beautiful. The animals appear to be healthy and happy and the living quarters appear clean, inviting, and quite spacious. And for that, I’m grateful and would happily visit again.

Besides, where else can you get up close and personal with creatures like this and not worry about your own personal safety or interfering with their natural habitat?

Give thanks…

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Thanks For The Support

Tuesday, October 28th, 2008 by Alyice

I feel blessed because I have a very supportive husband. My husband and I don’t always see eye-to-eye and we butt heads probably more than most married couples like to openly admit, but one thing we’ve always been good at is supporting each other. When my husband wanted to quit his job to return to college, I supported his decision. When he wanted to join gaming clubs or sports teams, I gave up precious time with him. Whenever I wanted to try a new business venture, my husband offered to work overtime to help get it started, watch the kids so I could have time to work, and even accompany me on a few assignments I was too uncomfortable going alone on.

And then when I tired of the business—even if it was producing an income—and wanted to try something new, he was right there supporting me again. Not once did he tell me to make a success of something and just stick to it. Not once did he discourage me from trying new things. Not once did he harp on the fact that I could never stay at something long before needing a change of pace.

Now, as I transition my life once again—to become a homeschooled art student—he’s once again lending a hand of support. And I couldn’t feel more fortunate to be married to this man. Yes, we don’t always see eye-to-eye. Yes, he doesn’t always know how to praise my accomplishments or do some of the other “mushy” things I wish he would do. But he sure knows how to support me and how not to discourage me.

Give thanks…

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